Gratitude is the foundation of abundance. It is the cornerstone of living a purposeful, rewarding, joy-filled life. Gratitude activates the positive law of attraction vibrations.

If there are people in your life you don’t like, the negative energy vibrations you transmit toward them will drag down your positive vibes. When this happens, you end up lower down on the vibes scale than you want to be. For example, let’s say on a scale from one to ten that ten is your highest positive vibration and one is your most negative.

Even if you have high vibes with most people in your life, disliking just one person can drag your vibes down to a lower level. Therefore, because gratitude activates positive vibrations, it is in your best interests to find a way to be grateful to all people no matter how you feel about them or whether or not you are justified in your dislike of them.

Here are five keys to transforming your perspective and helping you become grateful.

Discover the Root of the Problem
The first step is to spend time with yourself and uncover what happens to you when this particular person sets you off. Take the focus off them and shine the light fairly and squarely on yourself. You probably find you’re filled with a mixture of emotions: anger, frustration, irritation, hurt, disappointment, and so on. Allow their presence without judging yourself. Instead, find your inner compassion.

As you stay present with your emotions, they dissolve, and you quickly rediscover your inner peace, clarity of mind, and well-being. In addition, your sense of humor and creativity return. From this place of wisdom and clarity, you start to move into compassion and begin to understand that your adversary is living in pain and fear and doesn’t know a better way to deal with these feelings.

Focus on the Good
Most people have some redeeming qualities, although in some cases they are quite hidden from view. Assume the good qualities are in there, somewhere, because they are. Remember that everyone is born filled with love, joy, and inner peace. Somewhere in their life (for many people, it’s an abusive childhood), this person has lost their way and become disconnected from the source of love. They are trapped in a cycle of abuse toward themselves and others.
Send them vibrations of love. Pray for them. Ask that they will find their way back to the light. This doesn’t mean that what they did to you is OK, nor does it mean you have to spend time with them or even have them in your life. It doesn’t even mean that you are the person to help them. It does mean, however, that you raise your positive vibration level.

Create Boundaries
One of the reasons people irritate us and get under our skin is because we don’t make our boundaries clear. It’s important to be transparent about what we deem to be acceptable behavior and what we deem to be unacceptable behavior. This means we have to speak our truth, no matter what.

Everyone in your life should be respectful, friendly, and courteous toward you. If they aren’t, it’s up to you to address the issue. In return, don’t forget to be respectful, friendly, and courteous toward others.

Mind Your Vibration
We get what we vibrate. If we speak to people in anger, anger is what we get back. If we are disrespectful, mean, and insincere, others will treat us the same way in return.

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Allow your turbulent emotions to pass through you, and, when you feel calm and relaxed, have a conversation with your nemesis, or write them an email or a letter. Communicate what you want with clarity, friendliness, and respect. The more clearly you ask for what you want, the more likely you are to get it.

The number one reason you are doing this, remember, is to shift your vibrational level higher up the scale. With most people, you get a positive response, but not always. Hold the faith, because the transformation in you is miraculous, irrespective of how the other person responds.

Understand the Power of Love
When we take 100 percent responsibility for what is happening inside us, miracles happen. It becomes easy to be grateful because we have transformed dislike into compassion. Love is recognizing ourselves in another.

On one level, we are physical form and psychological makeup. On a deeper level, we are all the consciousness of oneness. Love is the recognition of our oneness. Once we are aware of that, compassion, the highest form of love, arises in us.

No matter how the actions of another affect us, turning our negative feelings for them into understanding, compassion, and love improves our inner lives. As that happens, and we become grateful for them, we decrease our negative vibrations and raise our positive ones helping us live happier more fulfilled lives.